There's a beautiful book by Gyorgy Dozci called the Power of Limits.
And in this book, the author illustrates how all matter and form has
limits, edges, and boundaries. In order to define different aspects of
creation, there must be limits. Limits of height, weight, speed. Definition
of colors, of shapes, of how flowers blossom, trees climb, webs are woven all
depend on the power of limits.
Simple concept and yet very profound.
As spiritual beings, I'm sure many of us have wondered why we can't just
instantly fly, apparate and disapparate like in the Potter books (not to
say you can't but in most cases, we don't) Through the course of my life as I
have marveled at the exquisiteness of creation on this planet, I have come to
understand that it is often through its limitations that much beauty and
pleasure can be experienced.
For example, a delicious meal is more delicious because of the
limitations and definitions of the plate, the coloring of the food, the
contrast of something light and something heavy (ie: Chocolate SoufflĂ© with
ice cream), the soufflĂ© being light of course!
And when you think of dancers, it's the way that gravity limits them that
gives rise to the oohs and ahs when they are able to fly across the stage, or
dance on the very tips of their toes as if it required no effort at all.
So friction, gravity, traction, resistance is often necessary for the
contrast needed for creativity.
And in the realm of human relationships this is also true. To value a
relationship where communication, purpose, commitment, empowerment, honoring,
tenderness, respect, devotion, remembering, marveling, excitement, mystery,
romance, surprise can occur, the opposite needs to exist as well.
It's impossible to recognize something you truly want without having
understood what you don't want. And that is why I find there can be
resistance when it comes to people having beautiful relationships.
People have been accruing so many experiences that they don't like that they
start to believe that it doesn't get any better. What people do not realize
is that your bank account of experiences has created its opposite. That
"jerk" of a boyfriend, or girlfriend, that betrayal, that ugly
remark, that lack of attention, that unkindness has given rise to desiring
and appreciating its opposite.
And so how does it come? I've seen it come fastest when people
"get" this concept, and relax into the knowingness that the joy
that is coming in has come from their individual experiences, and preferences
that they have honed and developed through the living of contrast.
So resistance is valuable when you resist the neigh-saying voices, the voices
that say oh yeah, things never change, or what if I get hurt again, that
defines itself with "nevers, shoulds", guilt, blame, or judgment.
Because the truth is that through our experience of life, we tell the
universe what we want and it gives it to us.
And I have been astounded by the physical aspect of this truth in watching
the Beijing Olympics. Michael Phelps breaking the record with 8 gold medals
(a few of them won on pure desire 1/100th of a second), human evolution
continues to stretch the boundaries of limits; new Olympic records are always
being set. If you watch how Usain Bolt broke the world record in the 100m race,
this year at the Olympics in slow motion, you'll see that we are beginning to
For some fun links of how fast we evolve and shift in what is possible check
out this video on a new kind of inner-city sport:
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